Re: Serious Question About the Chris Brown / Rhianna Debacle(s)
I don't know. I think Arendt's point was that there's a little Eichmann in all of us depending on the system we're living in - it's not an emotional decision, it's not a rational one, it's...
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It answers the question of why Chris brown wouldn't avoid her in spite of the possibility of violence. Because he doesn't consider violence a bad thing. So if that doesn't answer the question I don't...
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Which is not to say there can't be more in depth analysis of why that is.
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That's all I want to know. Why that is, not just that it is. Thanks, Meerkat. --tfl
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I'm not sure if it's applicable in this case, but one thing that I've seen with certain people is a very pressing need to be right, or to see themselves, and have others see them, as being right. They...
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I used to live near a lady who was a member of one of the first women's shelters, I had a pathological fear of this woman, she was one of the most belligerent and casually violent people I can remember...
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One part of why abusers stay in abusive relationships rather than finding someone they like too much to abuse might be that they can't imagine what a good relationship would be like.
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Good point but it only sort of begs the question: WTF goes through Rihanna's mind that she would employ physical violence?While Chris Brown was the perpetrator at hand I sure hope I didn't imply he was...
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ha, sorry I didn't mean seriously that she should stop listening to these people, I love Amy Winehouse's music (and there are too many musicians with questionable conduct to count), I was making a...
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Figleaf, you should read Coercive control. How men entrap women in personal life by Evan Stark http://www.oup.com/us/catalog/.... Your insight about focusing on the abuser is central in his work. Hope...
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Thanks, Justinas. I'll look into it. --tfl
View ArticleRe: Yeah, Misandry's a Thing -- It's Just Not Something Feminists Do
I don't think that feminists hate men. But I think it is fairly obvious that a significant number of feminists (on the internet and in newspaper opinion columns etc) find it incredibly hard to have...
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I know a (not really) funny joke that is applicable here. Two men in a hot air balloon are blown off course. After drifting for a while they see a man on and ground and ask him where they are. The man...
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These posters, like all these campaigns mislead, and erase by gendering rape. By the same methods they stereotype rape as male. So, these are misandrist, misogynist because they erase women's agency...
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And this would not be preaching to the choir exactly how?I trust you're not saying the specific problems the posters are trying to address are unreal. Instead I assume you agree, like me, that there...
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Also, those feminist feminist campaigns are based in myths and incomplete data. If feminists really want to smash patriarchy, all the have to do tell the truth, for a change.Conclusion"Studies have...
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Good to know. I'll incorporate that information next time I press the point that (articulated under the "Goldberg Spectrum" rubric) as we expand our definition of sexual violence away from...
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We have satirised them and exposed how archaic they arehttp://imgur.com/a/kwy9y
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I noticed that on the Facebook page someone had said "Amazing page! Thank you all so much. Just one little request: Are there any images coming about helping keep men from becoming victims? I'd love to...
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"There's really not a lot of evidence thateither same or opposite sex sexual violence is about anything but personal or social domination using as tools whatever the perpetrator considers most...
View ArticleRe: Leadership Lessons: Joe Paterno and Sen. Joe Manchin, Contemptable...
I saw this video yesterday and I really liked it. One of the things I liked about it is that he rejected the contempt approach. Contempt is not actually a good way to lead, it burns bridges. We've all...
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The reason an abuser beats their partner is not even necessarily because they are angry, very often they are unemotional, controlled sociopaths without any real emotional capacity to feel anger. People...
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Hey Figleaf, do you watch MAD MEN? I don't, but you might find this article interesting:http://www.theatlantic.com/sex...
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Been there, done (some, not enough) of that. Take care.
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I'm sorry you're having to grapple with whatever it is. Sometimes people just can't do it at the time and have to do it years later. I hope you have, find, and keep joy. You bring a lot to your...
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